Q&A: My parents say it is all for my own good

What suffocates is not the sentence it is for your own good. It is the price you still will not pay of disappointing them. Guilt is the most common control tool in a family power structure.

They can cross the line because you have been trading peace on the surface for a quiet yes. A psychological boundary arrives with pain and a small rupture. That is the reasonable cost of living as a separate adult.